We surveyed over 850 gay men about their thoughts on racism, including white gay men. Because they make up the majority of the gay community, live in a society of white privilege, and they should be accountable for their actions and things they say.
Our survey showed that 30.6% of white gay male respondents wouldn’t date a south east or east Asian man and that 16.3% wouldn’t date a black man.
Any non-white person who has online dated will know that race always comes into it.
It might have been down to a variety of reasons, but experience told her that it’s because he didn’t want to date an Indian girl - or, indeed, any girl who was radically different from himself. A new study by OKCupid suggests that such behaviour is more prevelant than ever.
The website looked at research from five years ago - which showed most people prefer to date within their own race - and compared it to current data. According to OKCupid, Asian and black men receive fewer messages than white men, while black women receive the fewest messages of all users.
Then again, the demographics of my clients are probably a bit skewed towards upper-middle class white people.
Money quote: The researchers found that most women speed daters said yes (meaning they’d like to see a man again after the four-minute speed date) less often to men of another race than they did to men of their own race.
I’m a bit surprised at men’s openness to interracial dating.
While I’ve personally dated women across the racial spectrum, I’ve only had a handful of clients who ever expressed preferences for women of other races.Some are overtly racist directly through their language and actions, while there are others who don’t even recognise that they are racist.Their micro-aggressions against people of colour through flippant language, stereotyping, fetishising or their racial ‘preference’, can often inflict just as much damage to minorities.A man messaged her, telling her how attractive he thought her “Latino tan” was.When she pointed out that she was actually Indian, and naturally brown, he stopped replying immediately.“The researchers realize that their results can be depressing, but they also agree with the many readers who caution against reading too much into the preferences of online daters and speed daters. I married a black man, who I am now (17 years later) divorcing, but the point is that I think the world is FULL of potential, why limit yourself?