Dating someone younger—whether you’re two or three years his senior or are talking cougar territory—certainly can work (look at Eva Longoria and her 4-years younger beau), but being an “older woman” in a relationship does tend to come with certain perks and downfalls.
Braving "robbing the cradle" jokes, almost one-third of women between ages 40 and 69 are dating younger men (defined as 10 or more years younger).
According to a recent AARP poll, one-sixth of women in their 50s, in fact, prefer men in their 40s.
Juney, who keeps her trim size 12 figure by eating healthy and working out three to four times a week, says she is sick of women being labelled ‘cradle snatchers’ for dating younger men while men who date younger women are hailed as heroes.'I haven't ruled out dating men my age or older but the problem is they don't know how to party, to date and often come with so much baggage it means their moves in and outside the bedroom are way behind the times.’'So many women who find themselves divorced in their 40s and 50s have to sit back and watch while their ex-husbands marry a new younger wife and they are left desperately bumbling around trying to date an older man.
'I tell these women: "Don't look for a long-term relationship - have a giggle and some fun and surprise yourself and date a younger man.
Younger men are as adventurous outside of the bedroom as they are inside it, and they’ll bring out a more youthful, vibrant side of you, says Lori Bizzoco, founder and executive editor of Cupids “He will see you as smarter and worldlier, so he’ll want to please you, not just physically but emotionally and intellectually,” she says.
“He’ll come up with creative date ideas that bring back romance and youth, and make you feel empowered and appreciated.”When you enter into a new relationship, it’s no secret you’re bringing former boyfriends along with you. “Men can have preconceived notions about women and relationships based on past experiences,” says Samantha Daniels, a professional matchmaker and president of Samantha's Table Matchmaking.
Juney, who has never married or had children, explains: ‘I have always dated younger but really focused on it from the age of 30, and among the guys I've gone out with were (teenage) lads aged 18 to 20. They know how to enjoy life and what many women might find surprising is young men are extremely sexually adept and if not they're eager to take direction.''When you're a cougar you need to date younger guys who know the rules from the start.
I haven't looked back since.'Juney, who is currently working on an amateur comedy theatre production, continues: 'I am definitely not a slut which is what people automatically assume comes with the word cougar. The main one is the relationship won't be long-term but we will enjoy each other's company and a lot of the time doesn't involve sex.
At age 70, I had to snicker when I read your comment saying that 23 and 17 were the ages involved in your question.