While I was doing research for , the biggest complaint I heard from Christian women was that Christian men weren't assertive enough.They described men who drove them crazy by calling and hanging around while never asking them out on a real date.That's because asking someone out involves potential pain. Worst of all, you engage in the most banal and abysmal of non-dates-going to coffee.
While there are non-Christians who date with the intention of having a series of intimate physical relationships, for the Christian this is not acceptable and should never be the reason for dating.
Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.
"How is dating her exclusively any different from calling her your girlfriend?
" I asked a friend who had recently broached the exclusivity threshold with his consistent hookup.
I don't care if you're the most self-confident, well-adjusted person around; rejection hurts. So instead of asking the person on a date, you go on approximations of dates that allow for plausible deniability of all romantic intentions. Fear of rejection alone has resulted in the proliferation of Starbucks like a French-roasted virus.
It makes the remaining friendship awkward at best, and humiliating at worst. People suffer through this in the hope that the object of their affection will eventually buckle and reveal his or her true feelings. They keep making up excuses to hang out, hedging all their bets and waiting for God to give them a sign.
It's hardly news that conventional dating norms have gone out the window and, with them, so too have traditional dating labels.
"Boyfriend" and "girlfriend" seem to share the same fate as the now arcane "going steady." People are still dating -- sure -- but recently, would-be couples less readily refer to one another as "boyfriend" or "girlfriend," opting instead for basic , sans label.
While dating can be more casual in nature, courtship has a decidedly more serious goal in mind: marriage.