Now, it’s time to actually link up with “the one”—or one of the ones—beyond the digital realm and in reality.
So, if you've exchanged a couple flirtatious messages with a potential mate, established a basic foundation of things you have in common and are somewhat assured that it's worth testing the waters with a meet-up, take the plunge and ask her to hang out.
First meetings, especially those catalyzed on the Internet don’t have to be complicated, but there are a few caveats to heed prior to jumping in.
Joy Davidson, the stakes are generally higher for her.
“Remember that getting ready for a first ‘meet-up’ takes as much time and effort for a woman as a real first date,” Davidson explains.
Actually meeting the person you are talking to is one of the most important steps to online dating.
That sounds amusing but many online daters dwell on internet communication overly long. They wanted me to get the show on the road and they were right to feel that way.It was hard for me to come up with good words when I could only think A-G-O-N-Y and E-X-C-R-U-T-I-A-T-I-N-G.Had I just opted to get a drink or a coffee for our first date, I could have gulped down a beer and we could have said our goodbyes in 40 minutes.Keep it short A first date shouldn’t be something that takes a lot of time.For instance, going to a baseball game could be a great date, but it’s a bad first date.I’ve already expressed my argument for why in two posts: one on how critical it is to find the right life partner and how seriously we should take that quest, and another on why going to bars is a terrible life experience.