Struggling to think of the right thing to say to an attractive match?
All I ask for in terms of payment is that if one of my openers helps you land a girl, you think of me when you hook up with her (but not, like, in a gay way or anything, be cool).
Not every girl calls for the same opener, so I’ve grouped them based on different situations. Using a Flirty Opener when the girl’s profile clearly calls for an Edgy Opener could lead to disaster.
I’d be more inclined to respond if his email was more upbeat.”-Alicia, 30, Philadelphia“All guys should avoid any reference to ‘the little man.’ Otherwise, Eric gets points for humor, but if he’d weep if everything in my profile wasn’t entirely true, I’d be afraid what he’d do if I turned him down for a second date.”-Christine, 35, Los Angeles, CA“I like the intelligence it shows, but it feels like he takes the joke too far.
I’m all for curled-up-in-fetal-position jokes, but he should quickly move on to commenting on something else in her profile.”-Kendra, 30, New York, New York The verdict: Eric gets kudos for originality and sense of humor.
Any decent woman online has an email box that looks a little something like this…
She’ll have 50 messages from men on the same site you’re signed up for.Anyone who’s ever dated online has had that moment – the blinking cursor, the empty text box, the racing heart, and the brain so temporarily empty, it has tumbleweed running through it. Make yourself a soothing cup of tea, and we’ll talk about how to do it right.This is basic, but sometimes daters forget that the first thing a match will do when they receive an interesting email is click on the profile of the person who sent it.If they love a certain stand-up comic, use the beginning of one of their jokes (Google is your friend at times like these).Create something that’s witty and warm and demonstrates you’ve read their profile, as opposed to just flicking through their photos. Research has shown that people warm towards hearing their own name in conversation.Use that scientific discovery to your own advantage, by starting your email with a “Hello [Username]” and not a non-specific “Hi.” If you want to create a feeling of warmth, shorten their name, use its initials, or create a nickname based on one of their interests. Everyone loves to read about themselves, so don’t begin your message by launching straight in about you.