Unfortunately, however, our culture teaches our singles to engage in multiple dating relationships as though it were a normal and useful practise.The truth is, the modern dating system has only been around for less than a century.Recently, after someone I’ve mentored finally decided to declare that they were in a relationship, they didn’t know if they should call it dating or courting.
Dating is part of the lie of the enemy that is ensnaring our young people.
The Bible tells us that all that has to do with love can and must be tested.
Courtship crashed back onto the cultural landscape in a big way several years ago when Joshua Harris wrote the book These are good parameters. The heart of courtship is the notion that you won’t just date for fun but will pursue romance with marriage as an end goal. First Corinthians tells us to flee from sexual immorality. Limiting time alone is a great way to run from the temptation to get overly physical.
I’ve been around a lot of girls who court and a lot of families who want their children to court. Clearly, the basic principles of courtship are so important to living a lifestyle of purity.
I have known lots of girls who haven’t committed themselves to courtship and yet, they don’t date just for fun; they only date guys who seem like good husband material, they involve their parents in their decision making and they do everything possible to keep their relationships pure.
I have found this to be an area where some people fall into pride.
If we want our young people to be prepared for marriage these are the questions that we must ask: In answering these questions, we need to know the criteria by which the answers must be judged.
Our culture finds it hard to make such judgements because the dating scene seems to be an expression of "teenagers in love" - and love is thought to be something that just happens, over which we have no control.
(But as we shall see, they probably did not survive unscathed).
The fact that "everybody does it " is not a reason for continuing to do it, but a reason for questioning it.
What’s the difference between dating and courtship?