While this may seem like a much-needed break, there is potential for you to end up at a home-dinner party socializing with a group that may tell you about their son or daughter that is “just about your age.” Awkward. Dating someone 20 to 30 years older than you means you’re probably going to see time take its toll in many ways.
When the allure of dating someone new wears off, it’s important to accept your partner for the person that you met – even if they are 20 years your senior.
(It will never be exactly the same for two different people.) Assess Your Proclivity for Indulgences While many behaviors in the extreme form represent a problem or even an addiction, some of those same behaviors can be harmless if not taken to the extreme.
Consider a list of activities that fall on the hedonistic end of the behavioral spectrum: drinking alcohol, gambling, shopping, traveling, and spending, for example.
That was my experience from dating a much older man.
What began as a romantic adventure into unconventional love turned into a disaster I should have seen coming from waaaay over the hill. How old you actually are doesn't necessarily have a lot to do with your lifestyle.
Now, I’m not saying these are conscious reasons why dating a man quite a bit older—there have been several moments when I’ve thought that going out with someone closer to my age would be much simpler.
I even tried it when my boyfriend and I took a short break, and I found it was painstakingly difficult and more complicated than my experience dating an older guy. The texting games (How long should I wait to text him back? It’s exhausting), the fear of commitment that plagues most twentysomethings, and the simple fact that most guys my age aren’t as emotionally mature as I am.
It can be tough when you and your older partner can’t share childhood commonalities (dude’s never read a book!?
), but the benefits can certainly outweigh those little things.
Rather than asking him or her such questions directly, lay low and gather your information over time.