When true love strikes, it doesn’t take long to recognize it. Inspire you.♦◊♦Now, this theory of high standards has to apply to yourself as well—don’t settle for a mediocre version of yourself if you want to attract an amazing mate.
When everything clicks, there is very little doubt in your mind. Be someone who chases their dreams, if you want that characteristic in your mate.
This past weekend, I ran into a friend at a restaurant who has just begun dating someone new.
My friend shared with me later just how anxiety-provoking this new relationship has become.
A “great” one won’t come your way unless you’re willing to pass on the ones that are merely “good.”So this is a simple plea: demand strong feelings from your relationship. Have the courage to believe that something better is out there.
Demand awe and inspiration–not all the time, but at least with some regularity. (Hell, I think you might even be able to know sooner than that, but I’m trying to be reasonable here.)And I know some people take issue with this, saying they were dating three years (or more) before they truly fell in love, and now they’ve been together 40 years now, blah, blah, blah. But what happens a lot more often is people who are in limbo for years simply get married because they feel they can’t “waste” the 5 years they’ve been together by splitting up now, and instead go on to waste ten more miserable years together being in an incompatible relationship they don’t have the courage to get out of.
In the end, they fail to make space in their lives for the right person because there’s no room.
In the creative arts, there is a saying: “Good is the enemy of great.” And I’d say the same applies to relationships. If you’re not saying aloud (or at least to yourself) “I love you” to your mate in 6 months or less, hit the “next” button.
The reason why more people aren’t ending up in wildly enthusiastic relationships is simply due to one thing: they’re not getting out of bad relationships soon enough.
They stay in something “ok” for months and even years on end, preferring the safety of mediocrity to the angst of loneliness.
These weekends spent out of town prevented us from being able to see each other most weekends.
I saw this as a temporary issue that prevented us from getting close to each other more quickly, but I figured it would go away once the summer ended and we both had more free time.
We went out about 2-3 times per week and generally seemed to have a great time together.