In the month of January alone, I went on close to 15 dates with a wide range of men, from lawyers to yogis to hippies to businessmen.
You call him by his real name instead of whatever nickname you were using just so your friends could remember who he is.
He's finally become "John" instead of "skinny legs" or "pre-med."2.
The thing is, no one really has any idea how dating really "works." I have spent the past year of my life doing my best to decode and understand the ins and outs of dating. How many dates before having "the conversation" about going exclusive or continuing to date other people?
Can I text him after the first date or do I have to wait for him to text me? And so I would turn to my friends for advice -- to call or not to call, to share my feelings or to play it cool, etc.
When you're at the store, you pick up his favorite candy/soda/lemonade just because.
You don't even have to wonder about whether or not he'll be coming over sometime soon because you know he will. This is because making plans with him is incredibly easy.Remember, just because someone has different interests than you and/or isn’t your typical “type” doesn’t mean that you should automatically write him or her off.After all, while it’s imperative that you don’t settle, it’s equally imperative that you give someone else a chance—just as you’d hope others would do for you in return.For instance, during conversation, he might say "I like to do XYZ with my girlfriend..the girl I'm dating..."In the big scheme of things, it's not a big deal - but I am curious. No reason to bring it up if things are going well and there isn't a concern that he's seeing other people anyways. Or did he say or do something to make you think he isn't as serious as you are?Before I ask him his thoughts, I am looking for opinions on whether you guys make this distinction yourselves. Holy crap that's a whole lot of mess tied up with the definition of labels. I've had the discussion many times but to be honest I don't think I've ever actually used the term "mutually exclusive" outside of these message boards. Talk things out with him I treat those as the same thing..Dating can feel a bit overwhelming at times, but the good news is that there are ways to turn it into a rewarding experience in every sense.