Even while you might think that this new person that you are seeing is so great and your kids will love him or her, your children might not see this person the same way you do right away.
When kids predate dating, the couple’s relationship inherently creates competing attachments.
The choice to be with the dating partner or children generally means the other is left waiting … Even before dating, single parents begin a series of conversations with their children that ask, “What if I began dating? ” Periodically, they engage the conversation again and again: “What if Sara and I began dating regularly?
When asked what she wishes her mom would do differently while dating, Rachel, a smart young graduate student, replied, “I wish she would recognize her own impulsivity and emotional rollercoaster.
She does and says things without recognizing that to some extent our whole family is dating this guy.
Dating after a divorce can be a difficult situation for any parent.
While a parent may be eager to begin meeting new people after recovering emotionally from a divorce, it can mean different things to every child.
But then, some months later, just as children are getting used to the changes in their lives, a new development often threatens their still-precarious sense of balance: Mom or Dad starts dating.
“There are several reasons that a parent’s dating may exacerbate a child’s anxiety,” explains parenting specialist, Toby Dauber of Morris Psychological Group.
A good standard is waiting a minimum of six months following separation from a spouse, suggests the American Academy of Pediatrics.