So, even though you want children, your life does not depend on it – and it certainly doesn’t depend on him.
You can even introduce him as your friend rather than your boyfriend at first and then let him slowly get to know your kids (and you in the role of mother).
Set him up to win by making it clear that your child (or children) aren’t competing for your time and attention. Have you asked him if he’s ready to meet your kids?
Being fun and approachable goes a long way with family and friends. He can be charmingly oblivious to your feelings but still find a way to learn something from Planet Girl each time you call him on it in your best, morbidly annoyed mom voice. There are a lot of hilarious, public scenes created together, as you pretty much join in at this point.16. The level of playfulness between the two of you excludes you from the list of couples that are rather intolerable for group outings.20. Everything from 50 cent wing night to discovering a Frisbee in the garage could be the best thing that ever happened to your Tuesday evening together. He's very rarely angry with you and doesn't have the patience to hold meaningless grudges.22.
A half an hour and some various snacks have been endured, so you're clearly perfectly fine. He's happy to meet the people in your life and quick to make friends with those around you. truth be told, this strategy is quite often successful.19.
Now, common wisdom tells you that you should never do such a thing; that letting a man know something like this is akin to having an agenda and will send him running.
The key is in how you communicate your desire for children.
Maybe you’re thinking, ‘Hey, it’s OK; he only has them every other weekend, so basically I can forget his ex exists.’ I want to hug you and pat your head.
The ex will always be a part of your new love’s life, and their kids.’ You’ll always hear about them, the kids will talk about them, the kids may even look like the ex you so desperately want to forget ever existed.
If you recently started dating someone new AND you have kids, it can be tough to decide when you should introduce them to the new person in your life.