You need more than physical and sexual attraction – you should be getting an initial sense of their values and whether they treat you with care, trust and respect, and of course match words with actions.
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Sure, it’s possible they’re just not big birthday people, in which case it’s perfectly fine to spend the day together without making a huge production out of the birthday.
But beware of people who expect you to make big plans for their birthdays too early on in the relationship — this screams high maintenance, and besides, don’t they have friends to do this? Same rules apply as above in terms of party behavior: if you go to a celebration, be prepared to buy drinks and go home together.
I’ve been emphasising something over the past few months that I feel it’s time to revisit: Dating is a discovery phase.
Use the period from when you meet whether it starts out online or in the ‘real world’ as an opportunity for you both to discover the ‘facts’ about one another and assimilate whether you want to progress…or opt out.
However, when I hear stories about disappointment, frustration, and insecurity about dates that haven’t worked out, there is a recurring theme: Do you know what this also means?
– They were too far along in investment and illusions to have their feet in reality enough to be working out whether this person was someone that they actually should be with.
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This question is an excerpt from Group Therapy in our Très Sugar Community. My man and I have been dating steadily for 3 months and we've known each other for longer.