He is a quality brand struggling with the economics of the dating marketplace.
Matthews is funny, intriguing, eccentric, articulate, a talented artist — all qualities that many people find appealing.
The problem with having Asperger’s is simply that he doesn’t know how to market himself.
If you are reading this page, it’s likely that you’re looking for more information about Asperger’s syndrome, because you suspect you (or a family member) might have it.
You’ve googled it, read the symptoms, and identify with them. Not everyone wants to be labelled with something as defining as autism; but for the rest of us, identifying with Asperger’s syndrome (and maybe going on to get a formal diagnosis) has been the most positive moment in our lives, and provided a crucial turning point.
Autistic people often experience problems with social interaction that neurotypicals (non-autistic people) take for granted.
With patience, and the right help, anybody with Aspergers can succeed in this world.
Occasionally a viewer might feel like the film is making him appear more eccentric than he really is (the questioning about his masturbation practices was certainly intrusive and unnecessary), but for the most part Sokolow’s subject comes across as disarmingly relatable. By painting his romantic tribulations as akin to a cultural difference (Matthews’ own analogy) instead of a mental condition, the viewer is able to see him as a decent man adapting to strange customs rather than as some ineffably different “other.” Indeed, from its opening frame, the movie practically invites its audience to shout feedback and advice back at the screen.
When he posts flyers with personal ads throughout his hometown, one hopes that he realizes even the most handsome guy would have a hard time getting dates through that approach; as he shares a single Halloween party dance with a buxom woman in a Minnie Mouse costume who never reappears in the film, you wonder if he realized that he possibly could have gotten a date with her if he had just asked; and so the pattern goes.
Those with aspergers can especially struggle due to the inability to participate well in ‘small talk’ and general, every day conversation.