While romanticizing relationships and falling in love in movies is nothing new, it seems the years and years of being exposed to Hollywood romance has taken its toll on society.
The research findings can be summarized as followings: 1.
Online daters tend to fill in the information gaps with positive qualities in a potential partner; on the other hand, everyone wants to make the self appear as attractive as possible to potential dates by exaggerating the self desirable traits. There are gender differences in both preference and messaging behavior on online dating sites.
This type of artificial "contact" contradicts the process of meaningful interpersonal interactions (to be explained), which generates love and attraction.
To explain the problem, I need to first elucidate the ingredients for love and the meaningful interactions.
This is because the online dating/matching (as provided by the commercial websites) lacks the basic ingredients for developing real love.
The most evident problem involves its use of several categories (plus a few photos) for the daters to predict and decide the effectiveness and success of their further interactions with one another.
In Genesis it says, Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him." As Adam and Eve demonstrate, no matter how many friends we have, in order to fulfill our deep need for love and affection, we need close relationships with others, especially the opposite sex.
One of the worst of all human conditions is loneliness.
I have a theory on why it’s so hard to find love online. But, when we go out on an actual date, we are disappointed because we don’t get the same emotional sensation that we get when we watch a movie. You have to sell yourself so that others want to go out with you and see what you’re all about. Online dating is hard because we are “browsing” profiles, making judgments based only on a photo.
By then, the pool of quality partners has shrunk, and they are left with mostly “undesirables.”Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not saying it’s only women who are the problem. Television and movies have brainwashed us to want and expect one thing. Many profiles have the same types of photos and say the same thing, i.e. I love to travel…” It takes skill to write a compelling dating profile.
Women weigh income more than physical characteristics, and men sought physical attractiveness and offered status-related information more than women. The service users preferred similarity on a variety of (mainly demographic) categories (including child preferences, education, and physical features like height, age, race, religion, political views, and smoking).